Singapore “Lianhe Zaobao” article on January 3, original title: They remain “unmarried” while waiting for true love in freedom. They are well-educated, economically independent, have a wide range of hobbies… do not want to get married. The number of “unmarried persons” with these characteristics is increasing in China. Why are women in the majority there? How do they view marriage and love?
33-year-old Zheng Hong (pseudonym) bought her own house in Shenzhen a year ago, which strengthened her determination to live a life alone. According to the customer manager of the software company, marriage is just an economic contract. “A man gathers the courage to marry when he buys a house, and a woman gathers courage to be single when she buys a house.” “If I can live well by myself, there is no need to get married.” . A few years ago, she would actively got to know the opposite sex for the purpose of getting married, but she frequently heard about the unfortunate experiences of her friends after marriage, and her expectations about marriage dropped again and again. Big cities also provide her with more free space, and she has many things to do-watch movies, go to exhibitions, go to beauty… Recently, she also enrolled in a painting class to make new friends.
The number of “unmarried people” like Zheng is increasing day by day in China. Most of them are women, most of whom are well-educated and economically independent. Choosing not to marry is not only because I believe that we can live well without marriage, but also because there are more disadvantages than benefits in (other people’s) marriages. Zheng repeatedly emphasized that worrying about getting married would make her “unfree”.
Zhou Yilian (pseudonym), 33, is an ordinary civil servant in Quanzhou, Fujian. But when you click on the WeChat Moments, you will find her multiple identities: guzheng player, dancer, cosplayer… She said: “Married friends around feel that they have lost their personal freedom. If I get married, I won’t have time to maintain my current hobbies. How to manage?”
The attitude of the young Chinese generation towards marriage has turned from yearning to fear, which is directly reflected in the decline in the marriage rate. The marriage rate across China in the past six years has dropped from 9.9‰ in 2013 to 6.6‰ in 2019. The more developed the economy, the lower the marriage rate. Experts say that marriage is no longer a necessity for women as it used to be. While the marriage rate is falling, the divorce rate is gradually rising, and most of them are initiated by women.
As Chinese women have surpassed men’s education, finding the right partner has become increasingly difficult. The process of urbanization in China has accelerated population flow. The shifting location of work and life have also made more people see marriage as a burden rather than a guarantee.
Li Miao (pseudonym) had two chances of getting married, but she thought about it again and again and refused because “it didn’t feel right”. Li said: “I want a long-lasting relationship.” Li, 40, works as a product manager for a multinational company. Like most single white-collar workers in Shanghai, she is not worried about living alone, and is already planning to spend her retirement with friends. “If there is no suitable one, it doesn’t matter if you get married or not”.